I never intended my blog to be something talking about social issues only. However, given the events in the recent past and the sentiments surrounding them, I end up writing about these myself.
Another brutal crime, this time much closer to home and we have shock, anger, frustration coming out in all public forums. From blaming men, to blaming the country legal systems, we the intelligent beings will try and assign the blame to everyone but ourselves. We have answers for what our leaders should do, what the men should do, but we never question what we do ourselves.
Men are not born in a different world than us women. In fact, we the women, are the bearers for both sons and daughters alike. We are the ones who hold them to our hearts and impart values and behaviors to both. Yes, society also plays a role, but it is not larger than what values we teach at home to our children, from their tender age. How do these values manifest into heinous crimes like the Delhi rape case? Here are some examples:
- There are millions of women who tolerate physical abuse and disrespect at home in front of their children. When behavior like this is common and accepted within the closed walls of the house, why should it not be outside?
- There are millions other, who themselves categorically differentiate between a male and a female child, always teaching the male that he is in some way superior. Do we expect this male child to treat women with respect and care when he grows up?
Aren’t these behaviors equally shocking? Why are these tolerated? Aren’t these sowing the seeds for crimes like we have just witnessed?
No problem in this world comes to be, without having its seeds within the roots of our very own society. Laws and police will only serve as a temporary fix. If we really want to resolve the problem, think about how each one of us is contributing to the problem in our small, ignorant ways. If we cannot change our behaviors to make the corrections within the realms of our own households, we have no right to blame others for the same.