Don’t steal all the credit
Having two children who are completely unlike each other in every possible way, teaches you a lot about life. I realized one big learning today and wanted to share it with mothers who are too hard on themselves.
Having brought up two kids almost the same way and yet seeing them worlds apart, tells me that there is only so much that upbringing has to do with health, eating habits, and temperament of a child. The most important factor that is responsible behind them being the way they are is the fact that “they are who they are”.
As a mother, if you blame yourself for their poor health or bad public mannerisms, please don’t. Even if I have never met you or your children, I can guarantee, you are the best mom they would ever get.
On the flip side, if you like to take credit for their excellent health and intellectual skills, please don’t. Remember, your child has a mind of his/her own.
Being a mother is not like being a car owner. We cannot steer children in the direction we want. For me, being a mother is like being a farmer in the field. I can ensure the seed gets the right sunlight, water and air, but I cannot force the seed to grow into a mango tree no matter how much I love mangoes.