We often ask this question about things around us. Is this apple good enough to eat? Is this project good enough to take? Is this post good enough to read? Not only about things, we also ask this question about ourselves. Am I a good enough wife, lover, mother, sister, daughter, employee, manager, cook, listener, speaker, thinker, doer, …
The list of good enough questions is endless.
Do we ever get answers to these? Is there ever one answer? How do we measure goodness and how do we determine what is good enough. Do we determine good enough from a point of view of ourselves or from a point of view of someone who is important to us – manager, spouse, customer, children, friends, society?
Like it or not, majority of us look for acceptance of ourselves outside of us. We are constantly seeking for signs, assurances and re-assurances that we are good enough to be who we are supposed to be! If you think about it, it actually means that we let others determine who we are and who we should be, what we should be like, what our behaviors and responses should be like. We lead our lives, trying to constantly prove something to others. The funny part is, we don’t even know what that something means to us.
It is like walking down the street with a whole bunch of stickynotes all over you. Each sticky note declaring you are someone. There are so many of them that no one can see who is underneath that bunch and worse, you are not able to even see which street you are walking on.
Try and shake yourself out of it! Peel off one sticky note at a time! Try and find who you are and find out if you are Good Enough for no one else, but just yourself!