I made some mistakes and in the process learnt something new today. While I am not proud of having committed mistakes, I am pretty excited that I have learnt something new in the process. Since I have started looking at mistakes as opportunities to learn, I am no longer scared of failing. Failure is just a way of knowing that I can do better.
I think for most of us, the fear of failing is not as big, as the fear of making a fool of ourselves in front of others. We can afford to feel bad in our own eyes, but if the world looks at us like that, we are not able to digest it. If you think about it closely, it is quite weird. Couple of reasons:
- We worry so much about others, as if, these others do not have anything better to do than think about us the whole time. If we just realized, the amount of attention they ever give to us, we would never be so worried about what they think about us.
- It is we, who have to live with ourselves for the rest of our lives. So it is our opinion of ourselves which should matter the most.
- Even if others opinion was to matter, wouldn’t they be proud to know that we have learnt something new today. Why focus only on mistakes without counting the outcome.
- Many a times, we just think we made a mistake without truly knowing whether it was a mistake or not. We set so high standards for ourselves, that we continue to fail against those standards, even when the rest of the world does not see it like that.
In the eyes of some, this blog might be a big mistake. Perhaps all my writing thus far might seem like a mistake to a lot of people. It doesn’t feel like that to me and hence I keep writing. Nonetheless, if someone was to give me feedback, I would be glad to learn and improve. Will I ever stop writing because some folks out there do not agree with my line of thought…. ah ha.. I guess you know the answer!