It is often believed that in a relationship if both parties are busy, it can lead to the relationship not getting enough time to sustain and grow. People often recommend that at least one party should take the back seat, take things slow and be available for nurturing the relationship.
I disagree. In my experience with my immediate relationships, not only spouse but others as well, it is very important that both sides of the relationship are equally positively occupied. “Positively Occupied” does not necessarily mean having a full time professional career. It just means that the individual has enough in their own life for personal nourishment, and not completely rely on the relationship as the only source of sustenance.
When someone is so completely dependent on one single source for love, entertainment, time pass, happiness, sadness, gossip, sense of achievement, food, water, air as well as money, it is a big strain on that one source (read relationship). Might sound crass, but I can only visualize a Leech as an apt representation of such relationships. There is nothing to gain by being in such a relationship.
It is for each individual to find their own direction of being positively occupied and indulge oneself in that. It is for the partners to support each other in their personal directions.
P.S. – This one is a solid piece of advice not only for others but for myself as well. Pavan, remember to show this to me in one of my bad days. 🙂