Thoughts and Quotes,  Toyna

Why should my daughter focus on Career when she may end up being a Full Time Mom, like me?

After a long and fun summer holidays, school started today. With both kids out for more than just a few hours, I seemed to have all the time in the world for myself. By the time I completed walking, yoga, meditation and breakfast, it was only 10 AM. Without a second thought, I packed my laptop and headed to office. I had not planned for it, but it felt like the natural thing to do.

For most working women, it is not a choice, but a routine to get to office. They finish their morning chores in a rush and are in office at the designated hour. For me, it was a choice to be at work because I am no longer a working Mom. I have not been one for the past 5 months. I chose to be a full time Mom before the final exams started in Feb and just continued being so till the summer holidays ended. Why did I give up office work? Because, I felt it was the right thing to do.

Why am I back again at work? Because, I felt it is the right thing to do.

What will I do at work? (I have no designated role or responsibility anymore) There are a few ideas in my mind. We will take it one day at a time.

I guess, I am one of those rare, lucky, blessed souls who has these wonderful choices to avail in life. I can choose to work. I can choose not to work, depending on multiple factors in my life. Or rather, I should say, I can choose to focus on a profession outside my home, or I can choose to be a full time Mom. It is completely my choice.

Honestly speaking, having spent five months at home and having enjoyed each one of them to the core, I don’t feel a need for a full time profession anymore. Being a Mom is equally (if not more) creative, intensive and rewarding. If entrepreneurs carve empires, Moms carve future generations. Please note, I don’t call myself a Homemaker. There is a difference in the definition of these titles  and it is important that I identify myself correctly. My priority is to nurture my children, not to keep the house clean. While keeping the house clean is an important job, it is not on my priority list right now. Nonetheless, my house is still clean and my kitchen well managed, thanks to an amazing cook, a kind hearted cleaner and an amazing father. Yeah! I know how lucky I am!

While, I am basking in the glory of being a full time Mom, I am aware that I have a  larger purpose to fulfill beyond being a Mom to two children. I have a calling which I will continue to pursue, in addition to being a Mom. What, when, how – I am slowly discovering the answers.

Coming to the title of this blog, “Why should my daughter focus on Career when she may end up being a full time Mom, like me?”. I think I have answered it by now. I know I am blessed to have a Super Power watching over me. Thanks to this Super Power, I have a well managed home, happy and healthy kids, loving husband, doting father and multiple professional options, I can explore. The fact is that I have had this Super Power backing me ever since I started my career. I completed my Masters and a few professional certifications at the start of my career. Thanks to this Super Power, I was able to slog for the first decade of my profession, juggling home, kids, education and career promotions. Even today, it is the same Super Power that keeps me awake at night, blogging about life or searching recipes for school lunches. I know I am truly blessed and not a single day goes by when I don’t thank God for these blessings.

I also know that my daughter is also equally blessed with the support of this Super Power. No wonder that she effortlessly balances Art, Dance, Taekwondo, Cooking, Education, Social work and of course endless talks with friends. I have learnt that, “You definitely need the backing of a Super Power to accomplish multiple things in life at the same time. But you need a bigger Super Power to give up multiple things and focus on just one of them for a period of time or your entire life time, when the need arises.” With the right education in her choice of subjects, career coaching and  parenting, I know my daughter will posses that higher Super Power which will guide her to make the right choices in her life. She need not always be career focused. She need not always be a homemaker/full time Mom. She need not be anything that doesn’t feel right to her. She is and will always be free, capable and ready to make the right choices for her life. So yes, my daughter will continue to learn and educate herself as best as she can, even though she may choose to become a full time Mom/Homemaker later on in life.

In the end, I just hope somewhere in this world, there are other parents nurturing their boys with the same set of values with which I am educating both my son and my daughter.


Side Note – Yes, I know the spelling of “Believe” is misspelled in the picture. But the spell error cannot camouflage the beauty of the background painted painstakingly by my daughter. If anything, the spell error, signifies the confidence and the belief that my daughter holds in herself.

I am an ex-Management Consultant and a successful entrepreneur having close to twenty years of corporate experience. I am currently focusing full time on being a homeschooling parent while researching on the future of education and alternate methods of education. I am also a Vedic Math Trainer, an Operations Manager at a business run by her children and a philanthropist working with tens of other under privileged children. I bring all my past and current experiences together in the form of writing blogs. Using these blogs I wish to create awareness in parents, caregivers and educators about parenting, education and holistic living.


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